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Things to Remember When Rejection Hurts

looking back at my life, I realised that many of the times I thought I was being rejected whether it was friends, family or job contracts was in fact redirecting me to those that chose and loved me for me, I was also being redirected to what it is the universe had in store for me, always something I needed and gloriously better. I know because I’ve been there on so many occasions. #trustingtheprocess.

As soon as someone critiques, criticizes, and pushes you away – as soon as you are rejected—you find yourself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I’m not worthy.” What you need to realize is, the other person or situation is not worthy of you and your particular journey.

Rejection is necessary medicine; It doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough; it just means someone else failed to notice what you have to offer as it gives you more power to move forward, improving yourself and exploring other options.

Its always hurtful the heart break of rejection and for a short period of time you will ask yourself every question you can think of:

  • What did I do wrong?

  • Why do they isolate me?

  • Why are they not conscientious of my emotional need?

  • Why didn’t they care about me?

  • How come?

  • They are trying to get a reaction of me hence the trigger

This is where you try your utmost best to maintain a positive mental attitude, NO PITY PARTY ZONE ALLOWED!, Maintaining your dignity by walking away and of course KNOWING YOUR WORTH.

I know it’s hard to accept, but think about it…the above in bold

It’s time to realize this and the subconscious idea that you don’t deserve any better. It’s time to remind yourself that…

  1. The person you liked, loved or respected in the past, who treated you like dirt again and again, has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you in the present moment, but headaches and heartache.

  2. One of the most rewarding and important moments in life is when you finally find the courage to let go of what you can’t change, like someone else’s behavior or decisions.

  3. Life and God both have greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or believing that you’re broken.

  4. The harsh truth is, sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller and emotionally stronger than you ever were before.

  5. It’s not the end of the world—it’s never the end of the world – and yet rejection can make the loss of someone or something you weren’t even that crazy about feel gut-wrenching and world-ending.

  6. Sometimes people don’t notice the things we do for them until we stop doing them. And sometimes the more chances you give, the more respect you lose. Enough is enough. Never let a person get comfortable with disrespecting you. You deserve better. You deserve to be with someone who makes you smile, someone who doesn’t take you for granted, someone who won’t leave you hanging.

  7. Some chapters in our lives have to close without closure. There’s no point in losing yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.

  8. Take a deep breath. Inner peace begins the moment you decide not to let another person or event control your emotions.

  9. You really can’t take things other people say about you too personally. What they think and say is a reflection of them, not of you.

  10. Those with the strength to succeed in the long run are the ones who build themselves up with the bricks others have thrown at them.

  11. Let your scars remind you that the damage someone has inflicted on you has left you stronger, smarter, and more resilient.

  12. When you lose someone or something, don’t think of it as a loss, but as a gift that lightens your load so that you can better travel the path meant for you.

  13. You will never miss out on what is meant for you, even if it has to come to you in a roundabout way. Stay focused. Be positive.

  14. Rejections and naysayers aren’t that important in the grand scheme of things; so don’t let them conquer your mind. Step forward! Seriously, most of us do not understand how much potential we have – we limit our aspirations to the level someone else told us was possible.

  15. Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. Don’t be one of them. Ultimately, you are who you are when nobody’s watching. Know this! And dare to be yourself, however awkward, different or odd that self may prove to be to someone else.

  16. Comparing yourself with others, or other people’s perceptions, only undermines your worth, your education, and your own inner wisdom. No one can handle your present situation better than you.

  17. The more we fill our lives with genuine passion and purpose, the less time and energy we waste looking for approval from everyone else.

  18. You can use your struggles, frustrations, and rejections to motivate you rather than annoy you. You are in control of the way you look at life.

  19. Sometimes transitions in life mean something even better is coming your way, so embrace them and don’t be afraid to let go.

  20. Right now is a new beginning. The possibilities ahead are endless. Be strong enough to let go, wise enough to move forward, diligent enough to work hard, and patient enough to wait for what you deserve.

All details aside, you don’t need anyone’s constant affection or approval in order to be good enough in this world. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs. So you don’t have to internalize any of it! Your worth isn’t contingent on other people’s acceptance of you. You’re allowed to be yourself. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs. You’re allowed to hold on to the truth that who you are is more than enough. And you’re allowed to let go of anyone in your life who endlessly makes you feel otherwise.

Sometimes we need to be reminded to actually practice the little habits that allow us to better understand and nurture the right bonds, or let go of the wrong ones. We need to be reminded to be selective in our battles, too. Oftentimes peace and love in our lives and relationships are both better than being right. We simply don’t need to attend every argument we’re invited to, especially when our sense of self-worth is on the line.

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