The best revenge is MASSIVE SUCESS and this is why to get revenge on a Narcissist, is not to do them dirty like they did you. Heal, live well, move onwards and upwards, accomplish your goals, live your best life happy.
Narcissist hate when you are doing better than them, better than those they compared you too or even worse better without them, it is insulting to them, they cannot handle it if you are doing great without them
HOW TO GET REVENGE ON A NARCISSIST IS BY TRULY LIVING HAPPYILY.
11 ways to deal with a Narcicissit in your personal life or in the workplace.
Set your boundaries:- when interacting with a narcissoist , setting limits is essential
Be on alert for instances of gas - lighting:- Narcissist will display several behaviours that make you doubt your own capabilities in a manipulative tactic known as gas lighting.
Ignore what they do:- Narcissist love to take credit for what you do, my very own true story, the worst thing you can do is to engage or confront them about it.
Realise that they will not change:- Accepting them for who they are knowing, they will never change, will save you a ton of disappoinment.
Set limits during contact times:- stick to you guns, follow number 1 ways.
Accept that your needs will not be fufilled by this person:- after years of having my feelings and emotions invalidated, I learnt that the Narcissist is only looking for someone they can control, someone who will be a part of their cheering squad.
Do not accept the narcissists version of who you are as a person:- One thing I know for sure, when a Narcissist can no longer control you, they will try and control how others see you, another true story, I have learnt to stay above it and ignoring the people who choose to believe what they hear, rather than give you the chance. The truth will eventually come out. A Narcissist will belittle you, insult you and make you feel less than a person.
Surround yourself with people who can give you an honest perspectine of yourself:- Have you read the #choosepeoplewhochooseyou #gowheretheloveis is the motto I learnt much later in life, it is better to be with people who validate you always and not sometimes.
Get to know thyself / yourself:- I was conditioned to believe that I was ugly, a never do well, that I would never amount to anything, this narrative destroyed my self esteem, I suffered from low self esteem for years, it took a lot of work to first loving me and standing in my power to accepting who I was and changing the narrative.
Take care of you:- When you have been abused for too long, you learn to survive and learn coping skills that are not necessarily healthy, Exercise more, seek therapy, eat and drink well, practice mindfulness.
Walk Away:- DO NOT SEEK REVENGE. WALK AWAY.
Happy PRIDE Month